Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Thoughts on Love

at 11:54 PM
So me and Ron had a serious-ass conversation today. To the point that now we're both rethinking some past thoughts and decisions we made in the past. Then me and Mary had a related convo. I don't have the energy to summarize the convos, but here are the highlights:
  • just because you want a relationship to work doesn't mean it will
  • there is really no definitive way to describe love, you just feel when a relationship is worth working really hard for
  • compromises can often need time spent apart to make the correct changes before you two can get back together and enjoy the better relationship that hopefully results
  • one thought I have about love is that a sign of it is not minding a person's faults
  • self-awareness entails honest, critical thinking about yourself, and sadly a lot people older than 2 decades still don't have the seeds of self-awareness
  • with romantic self-awareness comes having an idea of what you want out of a relationship
  • women communicate too much, men don't enough
  • too many people base their lives off of assumptions that aren't always true. Just analyze the decisions you make because you think you "have to", determine if you really have no choice
  • I still have A LOT to learn about love, relationships, listening to people, and giving advice
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7 comments:

  1. My initial comment was "fuck love," but I realize it just sounded bitter. So, I deleted it.
    I don't know what to think about love. I do know that it disappoints.
    (hopefully, my comment isn't bitter-sounding still)

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  2. "with romantic self-awareness comes having an idea of what you want out of a relationship"

    Yea that's my biggest problem...

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  3. Moody: It sounds a bit bitter that the second thing you have to say about love is that it disappoints, but given your current roller-coaster I think we can let that slide. Love can definitely disappoint, and sadly I think it will continuously disappoint us until the day it decides to make us supremely happy. Yes I am a romantic at heart.

    Mandy: It takes time and experience to find out what you like and don't like. Why do you think that's your biggest problem tho?

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  4. most of the guys i have dated have picked me. i would find something i like about them instead of having a idea of what i really want. thats probably why all of them failed cuz they werent what i wanted.

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  5. No time like the present to start making a list right? Hop to it 'manda

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  6. I agree with much of what you said. The problem is that analyzing love and trying to figure out what I want out of it, has made me slightly bitter. I mean I'm hopeful, but I feel that many men my age aren't giving it this much thought. Oh well, keep blogging, hon!

    I randomly came across your page, in case u were wondering! lol.

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  7. Thanks for stoppin thru! Sadly it seems that most cats, male or female, around our age don't give their mental list much thought. So they're in relationships with people they don't truly like, and couldn't tell you why. I'm gonna have to blog about this more, cuz for the same reason that you're "bitter", a friend of mine recently called me pessimistic. Is it pessimism/bitterness to know what you want, or more to the point what you don't want? I don't think so

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